5 Key Tips to Avoid Being a Bully Bystander

Bystander Bullies If there is one thing that Bullies like more than being a Bully, is employing an audience. The more the merrier as far the as the Bully is concerned and is the fuel to ignite the fire they need as they humiliate someone else; something that far too often leads to  violence. Bystander Bullies are just as harmful to a bullying situation, especially if that fire gets lit. A bystander bully is described as someone who is indirectly involved with the increase of bullying to someone else. Children seeing bullying situations far more often than they should. Often time that are not sure what to do when they happen upon a situation like that. Many of them just want to go along for the ride and see what all the chaos and commotion is about. However there are many in those crowds that would like to break up the situation, but out of the fear of retaliation for being a whistle-blower or a 'goody-two shoes', decide against it. Besides preventing ourselves from being an audience to add fuel to the bully's fire there are still other things we can do to increase the message that bullying will not be tolerated.

5 Key Tips to Avoid Being a Bully Bystander.  1. Be a Friend. Sometimes simply being nice to someone who is being bullied is helpful. Letting them know that you do not agree with it and asking if there is anything you can do lets them know that someone cares. Encouraging them to, 2. Talk to an adult. Talk to an adult is also being a friend. If this is not something that they feel comfortable with then as a friend you should find an adult you trust to handle the situation before it gets worse. If there is no adult around and the situation seems to escalate then you can,   3. Assist with an Escape. Create a distraction so that the attention is off of the bully. If the bully doesn't have the needed audience then there's no reason to go on. Only intervene on bullying situations when it is safe to do so. And do not intervene through the use of violence. This only escalates the situation and a bystander should be able to, 4. Set a Good Example. Be a leader to those around you. Encourage them about the negative effects of bullying and actively participate in anti-bullying projects and initiatives. Promote the motto of respecting individuality and giving awareness to cultivating a bully FREE culture. And again, the number one thing you can do to prevent being a Bully Bystander is 5. Don't Be an Audience. Prevent the fire before it starts.

How to Stop School Bullying?

How Do You Stop School Bullying? It's all over the news today: school bullying. As a caring principal with students in your life, it's probably a concern for you. So what can you do if you suspect one of your students is being bullied at school? Is there really something you can do to help them deal with the situation, even diffuse it?

IMPORTANT POINTS 1. The frustrating reality is that bullying is an all too common problem today. With the advent of social media and other technology, bullying is not just a school problem anymore; kids can be bullied 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. As a concerned adult, it can feel like our hands are tied and we can't shield the children we care about. 2. The best way to help your students deal with bullying effectively is to come up with a game plan in advance. And you do that by having a conversation with your students in the class. Ask them how they've dealt with bullying so far and what has happened as a result of your students's response to the bully. Teachers and students will rehearse and practice your plan together. By coaching your students, you can help them understand which responses work best to diffuse the situation with the bully. You'll practice together and train, like an athlete trains for a competition. 3. Ultimately for there to be a bully, there must be a victim. If your student doesn't act like a victim, the bully will move on.  At the heart of your practice and coaching, remind your students not to give the bully the satisfaction of a negative response, like yelling, crying or getting angry. I know it isn't easy but it is doable. RESOURCES VIDEO: How to Stop Bullying SUBMIT A QUESTION: Ask Dennard Your Question: info@justreachone.com  Website

Nationally Recognized Motivational Speaker Dennard Mitchell will Keynote AIU Graduation Ceremony

 

 

Miami, FL, June 03, 2013 – Nationally Recognized Motivational Speaker, Dennard Mitchell, will deliver the keynote address to the graduating class of American InterContinentalUniversity  on June 21, 2013.

Before he knew what a motivational speaker was, Dennard Mitchell knew that it was his calling. Despite childhood challenges that may cause some to veer off course, Mitchell harnessed the disappointment and used it to create a flourishing motivational speaking enterprise aimed primarily at helping people realize their hidden potential.

The proud husband and father of two said that two post-college career paths solidified his desire to motivate people for a living. His involvement with a network marketing company not only helped him to hone his public speaking skills, but awakened in him a passion for the craft. And his employment at a funeral home provided a surreal reminder of just how precious life is.

 

AIU South Florida Graduation Ceremony

Date:
Friday, June 21, 2013

Time:
11:00am EST

Location:
BrowardCounty Convention Center

1950 Eisenhower Blvd.
Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33316

 

The Gratitude Challenge

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On any given day you can turn your television on to the local news and hear about all the terrible things that are happening in our communities and around the world. You will hear reports about murders, robberies; wars, the declining real estate market....oh, and don't forget "the recession". After receiving this type of news it's a normal pattern to get into the habit of complaining. Has this ever happened to you?

Have you ever had a day, days, or even weeks were you complained about everything? :-) I have! As a youth speaker, I try to focus on information that will benefit students and teachers however, this post can benefit all.  It's so easy to complain about school, friends, parents, kids, neighbor’s yard, traffic, your job, co-workers or your boss. If this is you, instead of complaining I would like to encourage you to be thankful. I realize that having an attitude of gratitude will improve your daily productivity dramatically.    

Here are just a few of the things I’m thankful for. I’m thankful for waking up this morning. Many people fell asleep last night, but did not wake up. I’m thankful for the ability to read and write this post. Several people in the world will not be able to read this blog because of blindness or a mental condition. I’m thankful for my family. Thousands of people do not have families to share the holidays with. Lastly, I’m thankful for the opportunity to provide for my family. Millions of individuals are unemployed. I can name hundreds of things to be thankful for, these are just a few. What are you thankful for? http://youtu.be/_-jBv7xF0i0 



Got Vision?

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Got Vision?

Vision gives you the impulse to make the picture your own.

- Robert Collier

Do you have vision? The thought probably streaming through your mind is of course, I have vision that’s what is giving me the ability to read this post. However, when I pose the question do you have vision I’m not referring to physical sight. Rather, I’m alluding to having the ability to see beyond where you are right now.

That is what vision is all about. Question. Do you or have you set a plan for your high school experience? Better yet, have you developed a plan for life after high school? If not… it’s “A” okay. Over the course of this post & part 2, I will dive into what it takes to not only develop a vision, but to move in the direction of that vision.

Before I proceed, I want you to know exactly what the term vision means. According to The New International Webster’s Student Dictionary, vision means conception in the imagination or a mental image.

My friend, vision is so important. In fact, it is one of the fundamental elements of success. Why?

Because vision allows you to see and visualize internally what you want to achieve externally. One key principle that still and will always hold true is that: whatever you see on the inside is going to show itself on the outside. This includes high school and any other endeavors that you choose to pursue. See. It is far greater to have vision without sight, than to have sight without vision! If you don’t believe me then take a look at individuals who are seemingly successful without having the use of their physical sight.

Individuals such as: Helen Keller, Ray Charles, Stevie Wonder or maybe even someone you know personally. What allowed these individuals to achieve levels of success and even greatness? I would argue that it was their ability to see on the inside that gave them the success on the outside. My friend, although you might possess your physical sight, the same principle holds true for you. You must develop a vision if you have desires and aspirations of achieving great things in high school, college and beyond.

Challenge

Create a vision for your life. These are just some questions to get you started.

1. What vision do you see for yourself while in high school or college?

2. What do you see yourself achieving while in high school or college?

3. Where do you see yourself 5 years from today?

*Activity* Create a vision board. Using a poster board, magazines, glue and scissors.

Cut out pictures from the magazines that portray the POSITIVE visions you imagine for your life and glue them to the poster boards.